Hello! I’m new to the blog and just wanted to introduce myself. My name is Sadie and my husband Steven is currently finishing his MSIII year. We’ve been together for almost 8 years, married for almost 8 months, and have been long distance for almost 3 years. That’s right…3 YEARS, almost 38 percent of our relationship! The first two years of long distance I remained in our hometown working while he was 5 hours away in Philly for his first 2 years of med school. This past year, I’ve still been working the same job and he’s been 1.5 hours away in Pittsburgh for his first year of rotations.
The long distance will soon be coming to an end, since the agency I work for is being closed and we are all being laid off in June—ironically the last day of his MSIII year will be the last day of my job. It’s a bittersweet situation as I will definitely miss my workplace, my job, and my amazing coworkers and doubt I will ever find another opportunity like that one. It’s also unnerving not knowing what will be coming up this next year…we’re still not sure where all his rotations will be. Plus, I’m waffling between finding a job where we *think* he will be for most of MSIV or taking the year off so that I can accompany him on residency interview trips and just have time to spend with him in general before the craziness of residency starts. I’m afraid taking a year off might my employment chances in the future (or I might just go stir-crazy as I’ve worked since I was 12) but I seriously think I’m leaning towards taking the year off. I mean, if I took a job, I’d be there a year or less before we had to move again for his residency and to me, making up for lost time with him is worth more than a temporary job. Even if we are eating Ramen noodles every night J.
Bottom line is though, I am overjoyed to soon be permanently living with Steven again and see him almost every day, if even for a couple of minutes (except for those pesky away rotations coming up at the beginning of MSIV ;) ). I also look forward to meeting other spouses who are married to med students or doctors because while I’ve got friends and family back here for support, none of them have any concept of what it’s like to be in my shoes and have a significant other in med school, or to be long distance…And I will admit, it’s been very frustrating not having that kind of support these last 3 years from people who truly know what you are going through firsthand, which is why I’ve found myself visiting this blog more times than I’d like to admit!