June 19, 2010

Curiosity Question...

Was anyone else interested in medical school also before meeting your husband? The reason I ask is because I always said I was going to be a doctor. I went to college, had a little too much fun (still did decent), and decided I would have to go to grad school and pick up my gpa in order to have a chance at med school. I met my fiance when I was in grad school. While in grad school I also picked up a teaching job and have been teaching since. Slowly but surely I began to go to school less and less and focused more on teaching. I'm two classes away from graduating with my masters degree, yet I find myself searching for more. I know I don't want to go to medical school anymore only because I don't want my fiance's and my path to go different directions. I've thought about going into administration, then I thought well nursing is in the medical field, but I could also do P.A. school. Now I find myself caught in between my goals and his. At the end of the day I just want to feel well accomplished and at this point I'm not exactly sure where or what that is. Any advice?

11 comments:

the Jennings secede from the South said...

Good question- I've never had serious medical ambitions but I bet that would be a struggle at times.

I don't know, I always think of those old people who say that, at the end of life, it wasn't about your career but about the time you spent with your family and loved ones. I know it sounds kinda cheesy but the point being, you can be successful in life without being "well-accomplished" by the world's standards.

But, if medicine is something that you're passionate about, it's definitely a discussion to have! I am not particularly career ambitious, so i'm probably not the person to ask!

Mel and Scott said...

I know plenty of med school couples that are making it work. You just have to do what you feel called to do. In some ways it would be easier for you to understand what he's doing if you're doing it also. Don't abandon your dreams, you may have to tweak them but don't abandon them.

The Fishes said...

I know how you feel, I was/am feeling much the same. My husband starts med school this August. I knew med school wasn't for me as I didn't want us both to be doctors and busy all the time as we plan to have children some day. I looked at the PA route but am leaning more towards nursing. My plan right now is to apply to 2yr nursing programs and then once he is in residency try to do a conversion to a 4yr nursing degree.

I thought I was fine giving up on me being in a medical field until I started being more and more involved with his preparation for school and all the wonderful people we have met already as we start this journey.

He has been behind me the entire time and very encouraging. I guess you have to start with talking with him as you both have to be committed to whatever decisions you make. We decided it was more important to us not to be split and living in different places, so that played a large part in my decision.

I hope this will help you a little bit. At the very least feel better because I am right there with you!

Brooke & Freeland said...

I think PA school or nursing school is a great option! We have some friends up here that are PA's and went to school while their significant others were in Med School. I also have another friend who went to nursing school at the same time and I think it worked well for them. They would study together. It was actually neat to see that they understood all the things our husbands were studying.

I know that our friends that did PA school had (what seemed like) a busier schedule because they had rotations all over. I could be wrong because Im not sure how every program works.

Good Luck! Brooke

Kari said...

Thanks ladies! Everytime we hang out with people from his program all they talk about is PBL or GAR. It's frustrating for me to just be sitting there and listening. I'm more of the type that likes to be in conversations definitely not the type to sit back and stay quiet. Ofcourse I do just sit there with a smile but when I get home I end up taking myself into this great big emotional rollercoaster. I think I might try p.a.
On another note: I'm sooooooo frustrated! I locked myself out of the house. My fiancé has a key and his friend who is our roommate has the other key. There's no reason why I shouldn't have a key. They moved into the house a week before I did. As my fiancé, shouldn't he have thought about me and made a copy of the darn key?!?! Now I have to sig outside for about 2 hrs to wait for them to get out of their class and come home. This is some crapola!!!

Kari said...

The fishes: what are you doing for the meantime?

The Fishes said...

Right now I work full time. We've been trying to save up money. I got lucky though cause the med school he got into and choose is close enough to my job that I can keep working for now.

Kari, I feel your pain with the keys that happened to me to. The hubby (then fiance) and our roommate had the only two keys and we weren't allowed to make more. I got locked out/forgotten about many times and was stuck twiddling my fingers on the front porch.

Kari said...

I'm glad I'm not the only one that has been through that. (no offense, that kind of sounds wrong). Luckily, he brought me a slushy before coming home because he knew I was going to have heat exhaustion. LOL.

Christina said...

Hi all- this is my first time reading your blog and IT'S GREAT! My husband just finished his second year of med school and is studying for the dreaded board exam. It's been a long road so far, but board studying has been particularly arduous. I'd love to join your group for the moral support.

the Jennings secede from the South said...

Sure, just let us know your email address and we'll add you on as an author!

Welcome!

Christina said...

Thanks it is christina.nishiyama@gmail.com