Something that we do in our small group is try to help one another to encourage our spouses. Instead of thinking about me, me, me- we're trying to focus more on what our medical school spouses are going through as they work their butts off, without pay, and deal with the constant pressure of making the grades! Some encouragements that we've come up with are writing little notes and sticking them into their books or backpacks, letting them know how proud we are of them, planning fun outings to get their minds off of the books, and writing 'suggestive' poetry.
That's right, you read that correctly. Sometimes, when the spouse is really stressed, what they may need is a good laugh. So instead of responding to that stress, we say respond with silly poetry.
Any other ideas?