June 29, 2010

I didn't get the job....

I'm hurt. My stomach is in knots. I have less than 4 weeks to find a job if not then 500 miles away is where I'll be for the next year...away from my husband. I guess God is the only one who knows what plan he has ahead for me. I'm just feeling disappointed in myself. I had a really good interview 2 weeks ago, but I walked out of there not fully satisfied with it. Yesterday I recieve an email saying that the position I applied for was not yet available and then today I get another email stating that another applicant has been selected for the position I was interested in. Back to the drawing board. It's just overwhelming and I feel like I'm drowing.


Jessica said...

Hang in there! It took me about a month to find a job when we moved for medical school so there is still hope :)

The good news is that there are lots of couples that make the long distance thing work (I've heard that during first year it may even be preferable! haha) I can think of three or four couples in my husband's class that have done this for two years and are continuing it on into his third year.

Just remember that either way it will work out. You will either get a lot of normal time (which usually equals a 20 minute dinner every night - maybe with a date night thrown in once every week or two) or a full weekend every month or two of quality time. Both have their perks! :)

Keep up the hard work interviewing and I will keep you in my thoughts!

Kari said...

Thank you Jessica. It's been about a month here too. There's a big job fair July 15th, so I'm hoping that is where my big position is at. I've actually heard that first year distance is sometimes better too. LOL.

On another note: I was walking the dog today and was thinking of the actual amount of time I spend with my fiance. You pretty much nailed it. We go to the gym together but not just us two and it's not like we're working out together so no time there either. We do have about 20 minute dinners, but no conversation. Just eat and go. lol. He does try to make Saturday dates with me. So that's been really nice. I thought I was the only one having this much (or should I say less) time with my significant other. We used to spend 2,3,4 hours sitting outside our patio. We would talk about everything and absolutely nothing sometimes, but it was our time. So that's been a big change. Now I stay up until he's done studying and we lay in bed and talk for about 10minutes. But that's what I look forward to every night. It's nice and I definitely cherish the moment.

Thanks again for the words of encouragement. I've got my hunting gear on....and off I go. JOB HUNTING :)

Mel and Scott said...

During Internal medicine my husband and I got out of the habit of talking before going to bed because he had to wake up so early. The weeks since then have been some of the hardest that we have had in our marriage. We've had a lot more fights. The last one was the past week while we were on vacation in Seattle. It finally dawned on me that we had stopped doing this. Instead of trying to change a bunch of things at once we've decided to start talking before bed again. I can feel the change already. Communication is the most important thing you've got to work on in a marriage. The strange hours and stress make this hard at times but none the less important. You've mentioned before that you wear your emotions on your sleeve. Have you tried typing out what you are feeling? I've got a file on my computer that is password protected so that I can vent and yell and scream and just get it all out or so that I can organize my thoughts before I bring it up with my hubby. As far as getting a teaching job take a deep breath and don't panic. Jobs are usually readily available in education however we are living in tough times as you know. You may have to take a job in town with your husband that you don't think you want but can stomach for a year. (in my case four :)if this is the case don't be a martyr. I say this as much for myself as for you.) But at least it helps pay the bills and you can be together. I'm not saying go out and find a crappy teaching job but remember the old adage that beggars can't be choosers. Once you prove how valuable you are you can move to a better job. Good luck!

Kari said...

Hi Mel. I usually come on here as my "writing" time to vent. Then this week was the worst week ever. I didn't want to post something in public that I felt I didn't want certain people to read (like the woman I was going to vent about that studies with my fiance). So I sent an email to one of my best friends in California. So with that said, I'm definitely going to try your idea. I always feel better after I pour my emotions on paper. Hey, it may even turn into a book. :)

I'm also going to start looking for a job at the campus my fiance will be attending. Being that I have a science background I'm thinking I could get a job as a lab technician or something along those lines. Like you said, beggers can't be chosers.

Bethany said...

Hi Kari,
I just wanted to add my two cents to your job post. When my husband and I moved here to Erie, PA (he is now starting his fourth year) it took me a while to find a job. My degree is in recreational youth leadership but I had just finished a job with the American Cancer Society planning Relay For Life's and I wasn't quite sure what kind of job I was looking for. After about a month of me searching myself (and turning down a couple of jobs that definitely would NOT pay our bills) I was finally given the suggestion to check out a job placement agency. I was slightly hesitant because I wasn't sure what I would find, but it turned out to be a huge blessing. I never never never thought I would be a receptionist at a heating and cooling company. It did take me a while to fully accept this as my job (I had some pride issues) but I started seeing that this is where the Lord has placed me. I met some amazing people that I was able to minister to and the owner and his wife "adopted" me in their family (since my husband and I didn't have any family here in Erie).

I'll be praying you find something at the job fair later this month. But if not check out a job placement agency. You might have to find a temporary job so you and your fiance can stay together, I know that was high priority to my husband and I (but we had just got married the summer he started med-school). I also found that a lot of places don't even publicly post jobs, they go placement agencies to find their employees.

Sorry for the long comment! And try to enjoy this season of life, it truly can be a great time of growth for you, I know it has been for me.

the Jennings secede from the South said...

How is the job hunt?

Ashli Carnicelli said...

Hang in there love.... I just moved from Boston to Rochester with my husband who will be starting at U of R Med in two weeks! It's so stressful to move and to find work and basically start over, but remember that you have each other and that's what counts. At the end of the day, if you are both healthy and loving each other that's what will see you through the years. Trust me, God will provide!! He has called your husband to become a physician, has called you to do what you do for your occupation, and He will help you both to support each other in your life's purpose! :) It can't be any other way than that! So keep the faith I am sending you prayers girl!!!

<3 Ashli

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