February 2, 2009

It's about time....

Ok, so I've known about this blog since November or so, and I'm finally getting around to posting for the first time.... :) I'm Jamie, and my hubby Josh is in waiting to start rotations. We're from Milwaukee, WI, and we got married July 06, which one month later he left for his first semester of med school on Grand Cayman. We were separated 3 months, and when I graduated college in December, I was able to move there with him (which was AWESOME!!!). We had our own little place there together and made some great friends, but because his last semester was in Miami (and he'd only be there 3 months), I moved back in with his parents in Milwaukee to find a job. So we were separated for another 3 months. He came home for the summer and thought it was best to try and transfer schools, and was accepted to another Caribbean school, Ross University. He had to go back to Miami for 3 more months to basically re-do the semester he last took, so we were separated for another 3 months....

It has been incredibly trying on both of us. He has run into so many issues that we'd never imagined would be problems, and it's definatly a struggle to stay positive and supportive for him. It's especially trying to live with his parents and try to maintain a normal marriage with him, since I want to be the one cooking for him every night, but his mom is usually the one cooking for all of us. His parents are great people, but I absolutely cannot wait to have our own place again.

Right now he's back home again, and we were both hoping he'd be able to find a 2-year program to complete his rotations so I'd be able to move with him. We are waiting to find out what his school can get him. As of now it looks like we may be separated again, and I don't think I can go through that again. Any ideas how to stay strong for him and not have a complete meltdown? I trust God knows what He's doing with our lives, but it sure is hard to get through it sometimes.

7 comments:

the Jennings secede from the South said...

Oh my stars, that would be so difficult- that is a LOT of transitioning early on in your marriage! Even though we've been here and my husband has been in med. school for two years, we haven't had to deal with being apart so I feel for you Jamie!

I guess (on the bright side), that God is making you fully reliant on him and prayerfully this season molds you into a woman intimate with the Lord and GRATEFUL for the simple things in life with your husband!

Anonymous said...

Could you explain the context of your situation more? Because based on your post, my response would be to sit down and have a long discussion with my husband about how I can't put my life on hold while he flits about the country in an attempt to attend every beach-front med school there is. I'm not trying to be rude, but your situation seems very unfair for you, and it seems like it would be easy to fix if your husband would stick to one school.

Derricca said...

I can't imagine being married, but separated. That would be very tough, let alone be in school on top of it all. I guess the question would be,what do you want the most?

Ashley said...

I don't know very many details about your situation. My suggestion would be sacrifice to be together. Either you find new goals and aspirations where he is, or he can find a life close to you. I think it's hard on your marriage to stay apart for that long though. of course, we're all different. Pray, communicate with your husband, and remember that this too will pass.

Sharyl said...

Girl, I feel your pain. I lost/quit my frustrating job at a law firm in September and we lived on savings for a while until we realized we needed money again. Since we were moving at the end of the Fall semester when my husband would be done with undergrad, I didnt want to start a job to only have it for a few months. My hubby's mom offered me a job in her practice in GA and so I moved to GA and Sonny said in Utah to finish his last semester. We were apart for 2 and a half months and it was the most difficult time we have ever had. We saw each other twice during that time (flying to see each other) but it wasnt enough. I was so glad to finally be reunited. Just as a suggestion...webcams are a MUST!! I wouldve gone MORE crazy not being able to see him at all? (Plus...never mind....) Separation, adding to the fact that I was living with his parents and trying to prevent our horse of a dog from destroying their house, it was constantly stressed out and miserable. We are here for you!! You can do this!!! Take some time for yourself to do fun things and get involved in things that will distract you. (PS we are living with his parents now too because we are looking for a house by Emory which starts in July...I feel ya).

Sharyl said...

Oops, "stayed" not, "said".... Dont mix Mondays with Blogging folks...

Jamie F said...

Thanks Sharyl. I know a lot of people don't understand being separated, so it's nice to know at least someone else has gone through it.