Marriage Conference

Thanks to the ladies who gave some great advice on my "should I stay or should I go now" Marriage conference issue. Now that is is over, thought I would share a little bit about how it went, and if the situation comes up for you, what I have learned. :)

I think the biggest issue was that I had forgotten to put it on our calendar, so hubby couldn't plan for it, and make sure he got enough studying in before, so he didn't feel so behind. I think he kind of went in Friday night with a bad attitude, and I take the blame. I know he is under a lot of stress. Saturday morning was better, although not the best experience I have had before. We have been to previous marriage conferences that were a little drive, and got a hotel. Though expensive, I think that if your going to do it, spend the time AWAY! We learned some good things, but I don't think we came out of it the best we could have.

So, because I sprung it on him last minute, it really would have been better for me just to let it go this time, and plan better next time! No worries though, I think our marriage is doing fine. I just know how easy it is when a marriage has a lot of stress to kind of forget each other and go our own way, ya know? So, just trying to proactive. :)

Would love to hear some blog posts on how things are with your marriages, and what you do to keep going! Especially if you have kids, and even maybe work. (we have one girl, and I work)

Thanks!

Rotation Travels

My hubby-hubster (3rd year) and I are currently on our first awaaaay rotation. Like, 23-hour car ride away (we flew though) and staying with our in-laws. Well, my in-laws. His parents.

At first, I was excited to get away for a rotation in the middle of winter. Then, I was hesitant- what about our familiar routine, what about our space, what about our son's sleep schedule?!

But, a dear friend resident wife encouraged me to travel- she said, you never know where you'll end up for residency, see family while you can. So, we jumped and are having a blast. The 9-month-old kid's sleep schedule is a challenge on the road but we've gotten to stay with both my parents and my in-laws= lots of help with baby and LOTS warmer weather. If I can bypass a month of winter, then I count it as a win.

I do miss my girls' group up north but I'm glad that we went away for this rotation and definitely grateful that we were all 3 able to come. Not to be morbid or Debbie Downer, but you can't take for granted visits with family- you're not promised a next one!

Feeling selfish

Hi ladies,

I knew you of all people would understand this post. My husband is in second semester of second year. This semester is supposed to be lighter, but whatever that means! ;) Hub has had a hard time getting into his books this time around, and hasn't done as much studying as he needs to.

I am feeling a bit selfish today though. I asked him to go to a marriage conference at our church here in town, tonight 7-8:30pm and tomorrow 8:30-11:30.(I forgot about it, so just told him today :( ) This obviously cuts out on study time, which he hasn't done a lot of. On the other hand, medical school is stressful on a marriage, and things like this come around once a year (in which I never make it to because I always have worked during it) I know that he is going with me because he loves me dearly, and isn't selfish, but I can tell he really wants to study.

Should I have just forgot about it, especially since it was so last minute, and he hasn't gotten to study much, or do you think it is important to make every effort to do these things, or if they are even worth the time? I am just hoping I am doing the right thing. I KNOW he will pass his classes, but it still makes it stressful, ya know? I will take your honest thoughts, no worries. :)

Checking In

Wow! Who can believe it's 2010 already? No one has posted in a while and I was wondering how the start to a new year and new semester is going for everyone. My DH started a peds clerkship last week. He's enjoying it and even brought home some great germs to share with me. Sunday was a yucky day. Praying that the year starts with peace and joy for us all.