Overwhelmed and Anxiety

Hey all! I need advise, support, help, words of encouragement, words of wisdom....anything. I'm feeling really overwhelmed with everything that is going on. My husband started orientation and I went back to work (teaching) this week. Some of the med students have been having or going to parties since last Thursday. I know my husband wants to be there with the crowd to get to know people so we went to one party on Saturday and another get together last night. My drive to work is about 30 minutes, so long story short, I have to wake up at 5am to get to work on time. My husband could go to these event alone, but I admit that I feel this is one of the only times I'll be able to meet the people he'll be hanging out with for the next four years. Needless to say....I'm exhausted.

I'm starting to freak out about work because there isn't a curriculum in place for the subject I am teaching, so I feel a little lost.

Money is really tight because the bank did not send me my debit card (but they did send my husbands) when my husband and I opened our account together and there is absolutely no money in my account.

I can already tell the limited amount of time my husband and I are going to spend together (if any time) and I'm starting to feel a little concerned.

There's a female that is always with my husband and our roommate who rubs me the wrong way. I've tried to talk to her and get to know her but she doesn't show any interest in becoming friends. This bothers me because if she's going to be my husband's friend, I would like for her to be my friend as well. Yet I see no effort from her.

This and the usual laundry, cleaning, and bills is on my mind. When I think about it I start feeling anxious. I remind myself to take it a day at a time, but it would help to maybe hear from those who have gone through this. Maybe you can share what helped you relax and keep calm. Maybe you can say something that'll knock some sense into me. Maybe just jotting this down will make me feel better. Either way...thanks for listening.

the Job Hunt....

I wanted to share some exciting news...I FOUND A JOB!! The Monday before our wedding I signed my contract to teach high school Physics. I am so excited to have found a job and even more excited that I do not have to move back home and I can live with my husband as newly weds. I start work on Wednesday and he starts med school at the end of the month.

I'll definitely keep you posted on how the job goes.

I have to ask...

How do you ladies have babies while your hubbies are in school?

Like, how does it work time-wise? How do you afford it? How tough is it?

My husband starts school next week, first year med. We both want a family but want to get settled in first. Any advice and insights would be MOST appreciated!!!!!

P.S. SO much respect for you!!!!

Wanting to Introduce Myself!

Hi!!!!! :)

So, I'm the new girl on the block :) Not just on this website, but literally. I have just moved from my lifelong home of Boston, Massachusetts to Rochester, NY about three weeks ago. My husband and I graduated from college in '05, both musicians (he at Berklee College of Music and me at The Boston Conservatory). We have taken an unconventional path to the doorstep of the University of Rochester Med School! But here we are!! He starts next week. I'm so excited for him!!!

So, about that unconventional path from music to medicine...Shortly after graduating college and realizing how unstable the music industry is, and that both of our passion for it had waned, we BOTH changed course career wise. Mine just took a LOT less time :) A year after graduating from college, I enrolled in school for Massage Therapy, and a year after that became a Licensed Massage Therapist and Reiki Healer. It changed me and it changed my life, completely for the better! I know that this is part of my life's purpose and my life's work, and I feel so grateful for it!! My husband enrolled in pre-med classes, prepared for the MCAT, took it, applied, the whole shebang...and here we are in Rochacha...

As I support my husband on his leg of the journey, becoming a physician is the fulfillment of HIS life's purpose. And to add a layer on top of that, I have a feeling our work together has just begun. We both have something to bring to the table in the healing arts and in medicine, and we are fortunate to be married but even more fortunate to know that God wants to use us together!

I had a lot of growing up to do to move- I've lived in Boston my whole life. I was super happy at my job at an amazing spa in Boston. Moving to Rochester has taken me completely out of my comfort zone! But I am so happy to do it!! I am growing stronger from this experience. I am a little nervous too of course...I hope that my husband has nice classmates. I am trying to keep an open mind about the whole experience and let it be what it is, whether that means he will be studying and away for long hours, etc. It would also be wonderful to make friends with some other med school wives in the area!!

Thank you so much for letting me be here on this blog! I look forward to sharing more and to offer support and encouragement to my med school spouse sistas!!!!
Love, Ashli

Fall 2010!

Hey Fellow Tagalongs,

How is everyone doing? Main squeezes of first years, are you making it okay? Is being a med school tagalong matching up to your expectations?

My fellow (MS4) is on his 2nd month of ER, which has been a crazy schedule but he loves it and I'm thankful for that.

Encouragement for today:

A generous man will prosper; he who refreshes others will himself be refreshed.

-Proverbs 11:25

Bank on that promise as you encourage and love your med student (or resident!)